Your Journey

Seeing Your Own Blind Spot — Overriding Survival Instincts

Whenever we feel struggle, our subconscious survival instincts have been triggered. Their purpose in life is to remind us that we are NOT "something good," we ARE "something-not-good," to keep us out of danger. As soon as our NOT-ness is triggered, we instantly fall into our subconscious Self-defense mode, having to explain, defend and prove our Selves, which dives us straight into a fight for who is "good" and who is "bad," trapped in yet another co-dependent fight for "justice." At first, there are winners and losers. On repeat. Someone conforms, at least temporarily. Over time, we shut down, impose boundaries, build walls and, eventually, estrange our selves. There are no winners here, really. Just defeat, in time. Unknowingly, we keep putting our Selves into (or creating for our Selves) Self-defeating relationships, because (without realizing it) our lens on the world starts with the "I-am-NOT-something good" filter. This means, we only see possibilities for our Selves that will give us a chance to prove we are NOT "not-something-good" ... and the only way we can see to do this is by proving that somebody else is "not- something-good," so we can be equal. Nope. Not the answer. Without awareness of this systemically codependent way of "surviving" in the world, all of our seemingly perfect-at-the-beginning relationships are also a perfect match for our co-dependent needs to prove the other person is "not-something-good," so we can be NOT "not-something-good." Huh?!? I encourage you to reread that a few times, wrap your head around it, and see your Self in it. No, it does not always have to be like this.

Diminished State-of-Being

SELF DENIAL > SELF DEFENSE > SELF DEFEAT

We all grow up in unique environments, in which we learn what role we need to play to "survive." Then we go out into the world, playing the same role, over and over again. Our roles all contain Self-denial (I AM not...), Self-defense (I BE not ...) and Self-defeat (I BECOME not ...). The Point of You Exercises reveal to us the role we've learned to play and what causes us to struggle, and helps us to find our own “key” to shift our Self out of this role and into a new direction..

Undiminished State-of-Being

SELF AWARENESS > SELF EXPRESSION > SELF REALIZATION

The Point of You is our own personal key to shift attitude from Self-denial to Self-awareness — shifting from a state-of-being in fear that who I AM is NOT “good” to a state-of-being that has faith that I AM “good” — allowing us to open up to our true Self, our individuality, rather than be caught in conformity to be safe.

The Point of You is also our own personal key to shift energy from Self-defense to Self-expression — shifting from a state-of-being that has to defend and prove I am NOT “bad,” to a state-of-being that relates by BEING “good” in relationship with others — allowing us to express our true Self in relationship, in co-operation rather than opposition.

And, finally, the Point of You is our own personal key to shift direction from Self-defeat to Self-realization — shifting from a state-becoming divided, to a state-of-becoming unified — allowing us to realize (fulfill) our true Self leadership in union with others, rather than in separation from others.